Dating

The big reason to hate Hater – the dating app based on mutual dislikes

By Kitty Knowles 8 February 2017
Summary

Hater app is as divisive as the arguments that make it.

We live in divisive times, and now, you can date someone who hates the same stuff.

Hater is the app that pairs people based on mutual loathes, and already people are bonding while bitching about ‘Donald Trump’, ‘Bullies’, ‘Hangovers’, and ‘Rent’.

You simply swipe through lists of topics – ranging from cats to Vladimir Putin – and then moan freely about your shared bugbear.

“What we hate is an important part of who we are, but it’s often swept under the rug in our public persona,” says the app’s creator Brendan Alper – a former Goldman Sachs banker.

“We want people to express themselves more honestly.”

The dark side is tempting

We know that being single in the run up to Valentine’s Day stinks – even if you’re alone by choice.

Today the whole dating scene can feel incredibly fake, and most people follow at least one sickeningly cute couple on Instagram who aren’t as happy as they’re pretending to be.

Hater does offer the chance to get real: to steer clear of online liars with their impossibly perfect lives. And it would be great to turn our negativity towards ‘Bad Sidewalk Etiquette’, ‘Slow Drivers’ and ‘Double Standards’ into something positive.

But while ‘Haters’ probably have a gloriously deep bucket of dry wit, they also face one big problem, and it’s something we can’t abide.

Walls, walls, walls

Studies have shown that we connect better with strangers who share a dislike of something, but is this really best for us? Surely it’s not a great idea to ‘match’ with someone because they like or dislike everything we think and say.

We’ve already fallen into our social media echo chambers online – and it’s done us no good.

A better world isn’t built on divides, but through discourse: doesn’t that mean that a better relationship is one that challenges your ideas, and opens your mind.

A shared dislike of Donald Trump (or anything else for that matter) could actually serve to cement the walls that separate our society.

And there’s one thing we’re sure of: walls are something we hate.